Back on the blogging wagon

Hello – its been a while since I have blogged. Had way too much going on to be honest, and I haven’t really been running much either. Its  really cold that early on a morning and theres a lot of ice and frost about so thats put me off, but I am still exercising most weekdays and I am planning to try and get out this week at some point just to keep myself in the game. I think training will be on hold for the next couple of months until the weather is more agreeable and it will be about keeping my fitness levels up and trying to lose weight in the meantime.

This week I GAINED a pound. I was so mad with myself. Its my own fault. Two nights last week we didn’t have the time or energy to cook so we had toast for tea instead of a proper meal. And I was feeling pretty low and miserable anyway so I did pick at the work biscuit tin once or twice. Plus, I didn’t do a food diary either. And, to add to all of that, I had a night out last Saturday (so lots of alcohol) and then attended a christening the day after (beige buffet food). The pound gain was completely justified. But this week I am determined that I will turn it back around.

Yes, I am miserable at the moment but gaining more weight will only make that worse! So, it is NOT allowed to happen. We have a buffet at work on Wednesday, because someone is leaving. Ive had a little ask around to see what people are bringing in, and it really is NOT the sort of thing I want to be eating. So, I have decided I shall abstain. I will bring in a token tube of Pringles (Other savoury snacks are available) but I wont eat anything. My other option was, do I go and buy carrots, peppers, celery, low fat dips etc and make some potato wedges, but to be honest, I cant afford to be going and buying a selection of things the day before payday (I mean COME ON! What sort of bad planning is that?!) and also, if Im going to the buffet table to get those items then am I really going to be able to resist the temptation of sticking a few other bits on my plate? Possibly not. So, not worth it. If I wasn’t going away this weekend I might relax a bit more about it but Im 100% having this Sunday off plan and probably Monday too, and I will bloody well enjoy it, so really do I need to stuff loads of mini sausage rolls and Doritos in me gob on Wednesday? No. So, I will not.

I was thinking on Saturday that I have had a pretty rubbish few months, with one thing and another, and actually, 2016 in general has been abysmal for most people I know.  Its definitely been one of the more grim years in my lifetime, with celebrities dropping like flies, and all the political things going on, people being killed over politics in some cases! So, I decided that I would do my utmost to make sure 2016 ends on a good note, and I have decided to do one positive thing each day that will make me feel good about myself and will hopefully benefit someone else. Saturday was my first day of this, and I went and bought a Big Issue from the guy who stands outside my local Co-Op. I wouldn’t normally, I cant lie. I have bought the odd one before but I usually avoid. He was over the moon, and I felt like I had cheered him up! Yesterday I joined in a gift swap, where you get matched up at random with a stranger, could be anywhere in the world, and you send each other a Christmas gift. I should get sent the details later today of who I am buying for. How exciting. This  morning I donated a small gift to the salvation army Christmas present appeal. These things I am doing wont ALL be about gifts by the way. But these are things going on right now so I felt I should join in. Tomorrow I have decided to donate some dog food to an appeal for our local Dogs Trust that I have noticed is happening this week. And then beyond that, we shall see.
Im hoping that by the end of 2016, I will be feeling much more upbeat about things in general and what a brilliant way to start a new year, knowing you have done a months worth of good deeds to turn a bad year around somewhat? I would like to think I will continue with that (although maybe not every day of 2017, as that is SOME task!) but as and when I see things I could do, I would like to do them. We have enough crap to deal with in this world, I want to be responsible for making someone smile now and then, rather than sad or angry. x

It never rains, it snows!!

Well here we are midway through another working week. And what a stressful one its been! (not because of work for once!)

I started the week off with a 5km run on Monday morning for the virtual Poppy Run, proceeds of this going to the royal british legion. I figured it was a good incentive to get my backside out of bed and straight back into the routine after 2 weeks off and the medal is cute as a button, so I cant wait to receive it. On a high from that, I went into work, with the intention of a mate date straight after work with my friend to go to the cinema.  This never panned out. I got a call from my other half about an hour before the end of my shift to read out a letter we had received that has basically thrown our lives into financial disarray for the foreseeable future. We are now facing being around £600 a month short every month for the next 6 months at least. This is not good. Cue frantic money saving attempts. I have to say I am pretty proud of myself that yesterday I managed to make enough changes to save us a minimum of £85 a month, and looking like that could easily become £100 just from shopping around for things and changing options on some providers. I know thats not £600 but every little helps. Any budget meal ideas (healthy ones) will be welcomed with open arms though!

Tuesday I got up and did one of my Jillian Michaels DVDS (Kickboxing). I don’t usually exercise on Tuesday and Thursdays but I figured a bit of extra sweating wouldn’t go amiss so Im going to aim to do a 20-30 minute workout on those days. This morning, I got up and went out for my run, but I cut it short. I hadn’t looked outside before getting ready and when I opened the front door I basically stepped outside into sleet. I figured, I am up and ready, may as well have a go, but it was awful so I only did just over a mile and then I came home and did the DVD from yesterday again. Next run day is Friday so hopefully the weather will be better by then.

The financial situation means that all the plans I had coming up for November and December socially are off. Well almost all. I have a christening to attend this month which I will still go to, and a Christmas night out the week before Christmas which Im keeping in the diary but everything else has been cancelled. Which is probably good news for my weight loss journey, and also my current health kick (vitamins and no alcohol). I’m so glad I just purchased a 12 week pass for slimming world, as this means I can still attend weigh ins at no extra cost for the moment, and this will keep me on track. That will run out in January I think, so I will reassess then, but Im going to try and buy another one if I can, as I need the group support and the weigh in to keep me motivated.

While we are on this note, I have seen a lot of posts on facebook recently on slimming world groups I am in, where people are slating their groups and saying they don’t stay, as they hate all the clapping and talking about their weight loss. Im not confident talking to people face to face about my weight loss as I feel like it just highlights to them even more that I am fat – I feel like maybe they wouldn’t have noticed if I didn’t say anything (ridiculous, as they will have noticed!).  But, I have made myself embrace it and suck it up, and I find group is such a good tool. Yes we do a lot of clapping but its lovely to support people I think. And, yes we all talk (briefly) about what sort of week we had but I like to hear it, and you do get some useful tips. Plus staying to group means you build a rapport with your leader and the others that stay and it makes it much easier to ask for help on the facebook group when people have a clue who you are! Anyway thats just my take on it.

Hope everyone is having a good week! Fingers crossed for running Friday! x

Wasnt expecting that!

So I've been busy since my last post. I finally think I got over the virus and I went out for my first run in 2 weeks on Friday. Just did 3 miles and it wasn't easy as still a bit weak and dehydrated but I got it done! I felt it was necessary as I was taking my bf out for a 3 course meal Friday night for his birthday (which is today). The night before weigh in. Aaargh. And not just any weigh in but one following a week of illness and therefore very little activity.

The meal was delicious. I had looked at on plan choices but I decided what is the point of choosing things I wouldn't fully enjoy? It's a special occasion. So I chose what I wanted. And whaddya know, I managed a 1.5lb loss on Saturday morning!! I also got my gold body magic award which is for exercising 3-5 times a week for at least 30 minutes for 8 consecutive weeks. Over the moon. Thankfully although I only managed one run, I was still walking to nursery and back 4 days this week which is 40 minutes activity a day.

Today we are having a lazy day then going for pub tea (I'll have steak and baked potato or similar) and to the fireworks. I'll be back to work tomorrow after my week off and I'm knackered. But determined to get out running, so I have signed up for the virtual poppy run which I intend to do tomorrow (5km). The medal looks brilliant. And half the entry fee goes to the royal British legion so I'm happy with that. Just gotta get my ass outta bed tomorrow now and do it! X

Sofa surfing

Well I'm still poorly from this virus. We are now on day 4 although least I can eat now. This has not been a fun week. I haven't done any exercise, needless to say. I've been ok food wise though on the days I have been able to eat. I'll take whatever happens on the scales this Saturday as I really haven't been able to do any better.

This Saturday is the miss slinky/mr sleek awards at my slimming world. I'm not totally sure why these are different to woman of the year and man of the year but I'll go with it. I've only been doing it for 3 months so I won't get a look in, but is it really bad of me to want to aim to get nominated next year? I would like to become someone who inspires other people on their journey. It would motivate me to keep going to know I have done that.

I have two new party dresses for the Xmas party season which I am looking forward to wearing. Although I have more or less made the decision I'm going to abstain from drinking for a while, I can still go out. I just won't drink. I have loads of things coming up this month. My other halfs birthday, then 2 other birthday parties and a christening. I don't usually have so many social events in one month. I usually have one or two at most. I can pretty much pull it back or escape with a small gain with that, but not with 4 seperate things. So November will be a good test for me. If I manage it.

Hope everyone is having a good week anyway! X

A new milestone

Weigh in was yesterday and I was super nervous after not being able to run at all last week, but I was spot on with my food, and I lost 2.5lb! So I got my 1 and a half stone certificate! Woohoo! I said I was determined to run again this week starting tomorrow but that might not happen. I'll get to that.

I went to my friends house last night for a Halloween get together. Just a few drinks, nibbles and games. I had my first ever go at pumpkin carving. It's bloody hard work mind! But I think it's not bad for a first attempt. I'll attach a photo.

I had a fair bit to drink and was feeling delicate this morning. To say the least. I was annoyed at myself as I usually am very good at stopping at a certain point and switching to water, so I don't feel too bad the next day - this is a very important survival technique when you have a toddler haha. I was struggling to keep anything down and I really didn't drink THAT much so I thought, perhaps I've suddenly got a much lower tolerance level. Anyway I took myself back off to bed for a bit in the hope I would be alright after another hours sleep.

My OH came to check on me and I was no better so he said he would take the small one out for a bit so I could rest. Bless him! So off they went to soft play and lunch. Another hour later I surfaced thinking I could probably manage a bit of toast. You know what that man had done? While I was laid in bed feeling sorry for myself he had taken everything out of the kitchen cupboards, washed them out, and sorted through the contents, and put them all back so they were beautifully tidy. He had rearranged it all and got rid of clutter. He had also decluttered the side board in our dining room and allocated one cupboard just for my slimming world cook books, magazines and running mags. WHAT A GUY!!

I thought to myself, what the hell am I doing, getting hung up on marriage? I don't need that to know that what I've got is special. Look what he just did when he could have just sat on his arse? And now he's taken our daughter out so I can have some peace. As the day wore on I've got worse and things that are definitely not hangover related led to me getting some medical advice and turns out I have norovirus. Not a hangover. No wonder I feel so crap. And I'm likely to not be up to running tomorrow. Booooo. But, I'll try later in the week if I'm well. If not, it will happen next week.

Have a great week all x

Somebody slap me

I am going to go off topic again today. Commitment. It is symbolised in many different ways for different people. Im having a major struggle at the moment.

I have been with my OH for a little over 4 years. We have a 2 year old daughter and we live together. When I met him, I had been due to get married 2 months earlier, but had called off the wedding at the beginning of the year, as I knew it was not right and I was no longer in love with the man I was going to marry. I have been married before, and had a very difficult marriage; subjected to years of emotional abuse and manipulation, and I did not want to enter into another marriage when cracks had already started to appear this time around. So, when we met and later discussed what we wanted from life, both of us were on the same page, we weren’t interested in getting married.

Fast forward a couple of years and now we have a daughter. She was planned; we very much intended to have a baby. Granted we hadn’t expected it to happen as soon as it did, as I had had problems in the past and was told to expect it to take at least a year (in reality it was only a few weeks). But that was ok, we were happy. We are happy. But, now we have a child, my views have changed; I would like us to be married. He does not want that. I have changed my surname so we all have the same family name. And he bought me an eternity ring, but he will never propose.

We are at that point in our lives now where all our friends are getting engaged and married. In October alone, 3 of my friends have got engaged. 2 of them got engaged to his friends. I can’t help feeling so rejected. I know it’s irrational, but I just wish he wanted to marry me.  Last weekend we had a bit of a row when the second couple got engaged because he was a bit insensitive with how he announced it – thrusting a facebook picture of the girls hand with the ring on in my face and laughing. I know he was doing it because they are somewhat an odd couple, but it didn’t feel like that at the time. We had a conversation and the outcome of that was basically (from him) ‘I don’t want you to leave, but if you feel marriage would make you happy then feel free to find someone else who wants to get married because I dont’.

I know that this reads harsher than it sounded but it was still harsh. I have tried to explain to him that its not because I just want to be married. I want to be married to HIM. The father of my child. Finding someone else would in no way give me what I want. The bloody idiot. Anyway we moved on (ish) from that. And now today, a third couple have announced their engagement. Is it really bad that I am dreading going home in case we have another arguement? Am I being an arse? I cant help how  I feel. I don’t think I will ever stop wishing he would marry me. And I cant see him ever changing his mind on it either (he has his reasons which are valid, but probably not my place to say in a blog). I don’t know how to move forward from this. Im worried I will become some bitter and twisted old lady. But every time someone I know announces their engagement, whilst I am happy for them, I cant help but feel like Ive been knifed in the heart a little (not by them obviously.)

Someone kick me up the bum and make me see sense because I know Im being irrational. But I cant stop.

Midweek check in

I have given in to all the advice I received on Monday and have decided to have a small break from running until this cold has naffed off. I have been feeling horrendous, I am having to work longer than usual days as I am being asked to repay the time from the day I went home from work after finding out my friend had passed away, and Im exhausted. I will continue with keeping the food good, but exercise is going to be minimal (walking to nursery and back probably and not much else). Today I have to admit I am feeling slightly better so I may risk it tomorrow just so Ive done something. I need to get back to it before I lose momentum.

I was thinking earlier about how it is 2 months today until Christmas day. Wow. Scary thought. I have bought two gifts so far. I have 3 birthdays before that too, one is my partners and one is my dads, so they aren’t just a card and a box of maltesers jobbies. They require proper gifts.  I sort of know what my budget is for Christmas as Ive been doing savings to buy vouchers to spend on Christmas but I still have all the shopping to get done. Anyway, going off topic there a little, my point was, I wonder where I will be on my journey by then? I would love to lose at least a stone by then. In 12 weeks I lost 19.5lb so there is no reason why I couldn’t do 14 in 2 months if I really try. We shall see. And running? I don’t think I will increase my distances too much if at all this year now. I have done 10k and I would like to do a few more at that distance. I found it hard so I want to get more comfortable at that distance before increasing. If I can get to 6.75 miles rather than 6.2, then I will be around halfway to the half marathon distance and that is good enough for me, so that is enough to aim for by the end of this year I think.

Monday night’s tea was particularly lovely by the way. My other half is cooking most nights while Im working this time back, and Monday he made burgers which we had received in our muscle food hamper. Lean steak burgers, with smoked bacon medallions and low fat cheese, in a wholemeal bun with some red onions, spinach and mushrooms and a side of sweet potato chips.  Ohh hes such a good un. Twas really lovely.  This is my second muscle food hamper and I will be buying again, we are very impressed – and no Im not selling it haha.  We have a couple of packs of sausages to try at some point too – wondering if theyre are nice as the weight watchers ones. Tonight is chilli, which I cooked on Sunday night so he just needs to reheat it and cook the rice. See, Im not a complete slave driver 

Today I noticed my shape has changed a bit. It was a good little NSV which I probably needed having been feeling so rubbish. I took a picture in the work shower/loo (only place with a full length mirror – sorry) which I will try to upload at the end of this blog. I cant promise I wont break the internet though, I know this happens when fabulously curvy ladies are photographed sometimes haha. To most people I am still just fat but to me I am less fat than I was. My hips are less out of proportion to the rest of me and I like that. I haven’t got anything figure hugging on (god forbid!) in the photo but I think you can still tell I am not just a round ball on legs anymore but some sort of figure is slowly emerging. Yay! Another reason to just keep going. I like what I think I will become. Still a long way to go but I know I can get there. I have even started talking to a running coach on twitter and she has been advising me on my half marathon training. Basically she agreed with my approach to increase distance and endurance first and worry about speed later – so Im happy with that. She said she will help me put together a proper training regime when Im ready – probably spring time. I don’t want to commit to a specific training plan just yet when the weather may get in the way of sticking to running days. Rain doesn’t bother me but snow and ice would. No thanks.

Anyway I just thought I would check in with my random ramblings as I know Ive not been a good blogger recently, but Im still here!

Cold and flu season

I knew it would catch up with me eventually, and it has. My partner and the little one have had colds on and off between them for weeks, and somehow I have avoided getting one. But now I have succumbed and it is hideous. I set my alarm last night to get up and run this morning but I absolutely couldn’t have dragged myself out feeling like this. I may try again tomorrow. But will see how I feel. So frustrating as I had a little gain and I really wanted to obliterate that this week. I try to think along the lines that it doesn’t matter how big or small a loss is, as long as I end each month lighter than I started it. As it stands, I currently am half a pound heavier than I started October. This Saturday is my last October weigh in and I absolutely need a pound off minimum to keep that up. Ideally I wanted 2.5, so I could get that stone and a half award thats been in my reach for what feels like ages. But, I never lose when Im poorly. And certainly cant imagine not exercising is going to help that.

I will try my best to be as spot on as possible with food. I will exercise if I can but if I cant I will try not to beat myself up too much. Im just aware that November and December are both busy months with socialising, and also the weather is potentially going to prevent me running (I am not currently a member of any gym so I cant use a treadmill – and I cannot justify the cost of joining one in the run up to Christmas – my daughters presents just mean more to me Im afraid). Im not afraid of cold weather, I can run in the cold, its actually preferable. Its just if we get frost or snow. Pray for a mild one everyone!

Its my OHs birthday in a couple of weeks. Ive just spent an obscene amount of money in a golf shop buying this GPS golf watch for him that hes wanted for ages. I cant really say no. I have an expensive Fitbit, so I understand the need for gadgetry. That expense will probably put paid to anything too extravagant happening in November though. We have a 30th birthday party and a christening to attend, and I have one of my friends birthday nights out too (the night before the christening – ouch!). But, I am usually quite good a reigning it in on nights out. I drink pints and pints of water once we get to about midnight,  to try and avoid a hangover (plus its calorie free, and free of charge) and I stick to vodka and diet coke mostly prior to that. The christening will inevitably be a buffet but Im going to try and stay strong. I wont be there for that long, as my other half is godfather at the christening so he wants to stay afterwards for a few pints, so I will make my excuses early and take the little one home.  I need to check times but if I can eat beforehand, and pre-cook something to have afterwards then I can avoid the buffet altogether which would be ideal.

In December I have two social events which have both fallen in the same week. I am going for a festive trip to York with my friend, to see the Christmas markets, go to a wine tasting, and then out on the town. Its a Sunday night and we have the Monday off work. Then the Wednesday after that is my work Christmas meal. It is 3 courses. I have chosen mushrooms and steak for starter and main but Im going to give myself the day off plan as its the only Christmas meal out I have planned, and I think I deserve to enjoy it. I have previously been able to be reasonably good over Christmas in the past and managed a small gain of only 0.5lb. I don’t know if I will do that this year but I can always aim!

Oooh Ive got a bit ahead of myself here haven’t I. Its only October. Just rambling away anyway. Taking my mind off my snotty nose. Have a good day people.

Guess how much I love you

Slightly off topic today. Not talking about weight loss, food, running. Talking about life.

I saw a post on Facebook which made me think. Those little words. I love you. Do we say them enough? Do we say them too much? Can there be too much? I think if you mean it then no. There is no such thing as too much.

I tell my boyfriend that I love him every night before I fall asleep. And sometimes at other random points in the day. I tell my daughter I love her all the time. Probably even more so now she has started to say it back, in her cute little toddler voice. Its adorable. Who doesn't love being loved? Its the greatest thing in the world. Well it is for me anyway. Loving someone who loves you right back - what more could you want?

My boyfriend is not one for talking about feelings. He doesnt really do PDA'S and he isn't the type to do mushy Facebook posts. He's not that romantic to be honest. But I know its not because he doesn't love me. He shows it in other ways. He is a good dad and a good partner, he never complains about money (the greatest source of argument in most relationships) and he is excellent at looking after me if I'm poorly. He doesn't tend to randomly tell me he loves me. Not often anyway. Well not compared to me - its usually a reply to me saying it to him. That's ok though. I know we are different in this sense. I am very open about my feelings. Maybe too open.

There is a reason we differ so much in this. I have experienced loss that he hasn't. And that changed everything. Its no secret that I lost my mam. I've mentioned it before. I was 34. Too young to lose her by far. I think we all have a handful of people in our lives who make up our reason for being. Those who are vital to our wellbeing and happiness. That we cannot imagine being without. Mine are my parents, my boyfriend, my daughter. And one of those people have now gone. Loss is never pleasant. But there will always be some losses that hit you harder than others. I'm not about to assume that for everyone it would be a mother as people have different relationships with their families but for the most part I would say parents are up there.

When you have lost one of those people from your innermost circle, a bit of you is lost too. The part of you that thrives because of their very existence is dulled and some of it never comes back. You think over and over about your last conversations with them. What did I say? What did she say? Did I tell her I loved her? (Of course I did - we said it a lot). Did I say it enough though? There is always going to be the wish that you said it more. Even for me who said it often. I regret not saying it more. Our last conversation was the afternoon before she died. She told me she was frightened. I told her it would be alright. She said she was so grateful to have me as a daughter and thanked me. I told her she was the best mam I could ever have had, and thanked her too. It was lovely but weird. I think we both knew it was the last time. I can't remember if we said we loved each other. I'm sure we will have done but I cannot remember it. And I hate that.

So, this is why I say it every day. I want them to know they are loved. You never know when your last chance might be. That might sound a bit morbid but I don't mean it to. I think there is a lot to be said for love, and expressing that. Tell someone you love them. You've nothing to lose. ❤

Going in the wrong direction.

I was aiming to get my 1.5stone award today. But I didnt. I gained a bloody pound didn't I. I'm so pissed off. I didn't deserve a gain. Its possibly last weeks gain arriving late. Possibly water retention from pushing myself hard yesterday exercise wise. But I'm not happy. I want that award. Buggers. I've cooked a bog pot of speedy chilli tonight again which I'll take for lunches to work. I won the raffle which was loads of veg. So I've bought a chicken on my way home to do a big roast chicken dinner tomorrow.

I have a new 12 week food journal to start and I intend to focus. I'll run 3 days this week and I will avoid that bloody biscuit tin at work. I'll take extra fruit to avoid temptation. I only had a couple of biscuits all week which I did syn but I'll try and not have any this week.

I know I've been through a rough time recently so I'm not gonna beat myself up. I feel like I'm coming down with a cold so I'm hoping to have a really chilled out day tomorrow and be fighting fit on Monday.

We had a rare child free evening last night. We were planning to go out but we are both so tired and run down, I cooked a takeaway nandos, we had a few drinks and watched the current box set we are ploughing through and went to bed early. Rock and roll. But, we enjoyed it.

I'm doing my meal plan for the week later. Already have pre cooked chilli, obviously, and pre cooked lasagnes. I got a delivery from muscle food the other day so I have loads of chicken, sausages and burgers and a pork joint to work with, as well as mince. So I'll get my thinking cap on and decide what we are gonna eat.

Happy Saturday all! X

What a week

This week has been absolutely awful. Not much else could have gone wrong. I've had so many issues with work, they have been cruddy. My dog died on Monday too. She was 11 years old and getting around was starting to cause her a bit of bother but I still thought she had a bit more time. Bless her. I've tried to explain it to Megan but she's only 2. She doesn't really get it.

I will be glad to see the back of this week to be quite honest. I have been on track food wise despite the crap that's been thrown my way and I feel good about that. I haven't done 3 runs as usual though. I did one on Monday but by Wednesday I was already fed up with the world and extra sleep seemed to be much more tempting. I'm fine with that - I think I needed that extra hour in bed. Besides I made up for that this morning as I managed to do a whopping 6.2 miles (10km). This little mini goal was in my mind to achieve by Christmas. I won't lie, it was bloody hard. And I did walk for about 15-20 seconds twice when I got a really bad stitch, as I'd rather keep moving than stop altogether till its gone. But I did it. And I'll do it again.

Wondering if this run will impact weigh in tomorrow. My 1.5 stone award is so close I can smell it. But when I have pushed myself sometimes it results in a STS the next day at weigh in. We shall see. I really hope I get it.

We have a child free night tonight and I have a bottle of wine chilling in the fridge. Saving my syns to have a couple of glasses. If I get my award tomorrow I'll be having a couple more to celebrate.

Have a picture of my sweaty face after this mornings run. Enjoy!!

Weigh in surprises and a blast from the past.

I am truly shocked to have lost half a pound at weigh in! I was expecting a 4lb gain or thereabouts. I don't know where that figure came from by the way. It just sounded right. So this has proved to me that while you can't outrun a bad diet, you can have a couple of days off plan once in a while and if you do exercise and get straight back on it and don't use a weekend as an excuse to slack off for a week, or a month, you will be ok.

Last week I came across a post I wrote a while ago when I was planning to start a blog and didn't really bother. It was a cathartic post to write as I needed to rant. It was coming up to Easter and a couple of people had been saying I can't diet over Easter, 4 days off won't hurt etc etc. I was determined that I wasn't using Easter as an excuse to slack off (and while I do realise I've literally just said you can have a few days off now and then, for me Easter doesn't warrant it because I'm not really celebrating anything, I'm not religious and I don't like Easter egg chocolate much either so I wouldn't choose this as a special occasion. I choose Christmas day and my birthday). These people started taunting me basically saying just have an Easter egg. Oh go on have a hot cross bun, have a cake, and ended up them laughing at me, imagining me face down in a chocolate gateaux. It wasn't very pleasant for me. The following post was the result of that exchange....

Yesterday I had a little bit of a breakdown. I've been feeling pretty miserable about myself for a while now, as I gained weight during pregnancy (which is inevitable) and I've really struggled to lose it, and I feel pretty rubbish about my appearance. There are deeper issues than baby weight though. I was mentally abused in my former marriage. My ex drummed into me that I was fat, ugly, useless etc, it was a power thing i suppose. He was very controlling and chipping away at my confidence day by day was part of gaining that control over me. Making me have so little self esteem I couldn't really make any decisions for myself anymore. Not a nice place to be. I have regained some confidence since we split some years ago but that little nagging voice in my head that he put there, will never ever go away. I was feeling really good about myself when I met my current partner. Not skinny but curves in the right places and I was getting a fair bit of male attention. I think I fell a little bit in love with him the first time we met. I know I moan about him sometimes but he really is the most lovely man
I've had 2 very serious relationships before him and he's completely different to either of them in every way. He doesn't do mind games, he's straightforward and what you see is what you get. He's also quite beautiful. No relationship is perfect (and anyone who says theirs is, is a massive liar) but he generally makes me happier than anyone else ever has. And we have a beautiful daughter, who has enriched our lives and stolen our hearts.

So, why the breakdown? Well I have been dieting since the start of the year and recently started exercising again. I am near the 2 stone lost mark at the moment and I am so proud of that. But I know I have another 2 to go easily. I've done this before, I had a lot of weight to lose after an accident left me housebound for over a year. I was on my own at the time, my ex husband decided he couldn't be arsed with a wife that was a cripple (his words) so he fucked off. Once I had had my surgery and recovered enough strength in my spine and leg to do serious exercise, I started my long and difficult journey. I had to be very strict with myself and not have these 'treat days' other  dieters do once a week where they eat whatever they like. I can't do that. My metabolism is either shit, or my body loves the fat too much to let go. Or maybe both. But I can't get away with the odd little cheat. I have to account for everything and the days I do indulge I have to be super strict the rest of the week to avoid that one day ruining it all.

I've been doing this lately. I've re-found my mojo finally after a year of half arsed attempts. And once I find that mojo I need to cling onto it cos once it's lost it's a sneaky little bugger and it takes so long to find again that by the time I do, I am back to square one.

I feel at the moment that I don't look any better for having lost that 25lb. I can't see a difference in myself at all. Which is hard, I've worked hard to get that off and I was hoping I would start to like what I see in the mirror by now. But I don't. I detest it in fact. If I could be ANYONE else in the world other than me, I would do it.

So yesterday, being involved in what was undoubtedly a bit of banter, set me off. I know nothing was probably meant by it, but, whilst I can quite easily take the piss out of myself for the way I look, do not mistake this for meaning you can too. I do it as a defence i suppose. I call myself names before someone else can get in there first. Something I developed as a defence in my marriage. If I call myself a fat bitch, then it takes the fun out of it for the 'bully' and then maybe they won't bother. I can joke about my flaws. But please don't you do it. Because it cuts me like the sharpest knife in the drawer being plunged into my (fat) skin. Maybe I am in the wrong, saying, I can do this, you can't. But it's how I feel. I cried yesterday after the little spat. I felt terrible about myself. To put it into context i described it to a friend as this :

Have you seen the film Matilda? Have you seen the part where the teacher makes the fat boy stuff himself with a whole chocolate cake in front of the entire school, to make an example out of him being fat? That's what I felt like yesterday. That fat kid.

So yes, I get up at 5am to exercise before I work. And yes I will check syn values in everything before I eat it. I will hesitate when there are buffets at work and if I decide to indulge I will only take one or two things and not a plateful, and not seconds.  I will joke about my fat arse till the cows come home. But please think twice before you join in. Because I will take it to heart and I already dislike my appearance more than any of you could probably ever comprehend. I don't need any more ammo against myself. X

Weigh in is looming....

Last weekend is the first time I've missed weigh in and gone off plan since I joined my group on august 1st. It was all planned, which is slightly better, but I'm dreading the scales.

I did some damage limitation the week before and I've done some more this week after but I know I'm facing a gain. Its inevitable. Nobody can drink that much prosecco and escape a gain.

I also had a Chinese buffet and 2 days of off plan food as well as drinking. And then tomorrow I have a funeral to attend. I don't know what we are doing about the wake but if we do go then of course we will have to eat buffet. Its at 10am and I'll need lunch if we stay around.

This morning I went for a run again. I struggled today again. I think its my body rebelling against my weekend. I'm not still hungover or anything but I do think I have a bad food hangover. Which is clearly worse as its lasting days.

I've done two runs this week and I usually like to do three. Monday Wednesday and Friday. This week I have done Tuesday and Thursday. I may do one tomorrow although I hate running two days in a row, my legs scream at me. But I am not sure a pre weigh in run on Saturday is wise either. I'll see how I feel tomorrow and if I can I'll go out. If not I'll have done two runs this week which is better than none!

I ordered myself a big tub of Epsom salts the other day and they came yesterday. Its a lot bigger than I thought but I don't mind as I love them and use them in the bath a lot. I'm thinking I may go and have a nice long hot soak with a couple of handfuls thrown in to help post run recovery and that might aid with getting out tomorrow. I don't know if anyone else uses them but definitely worth giving a try if you like baths.

I've done a big batch of syn free lasagnes this morning, and I've made a scan bran Christmas cake. Yes really. In October. Apparently we are having a Christmas themed taster morning on Saturday so I decided to give this a go. It smells lovely. I just hope it tastes alright. I also have carribean pepperpot stew to make later. Domestic goddess that I am haha. So yeah my house smells pretty divine right now.

I'm off out later to spend my birthday money if I can decide what I want. I am rubbish at treating myself. Other people I can spend money on all day long (especially my daughter) but myself? I struggle. I have a couple of ideas (is it really sad that some of them are Tupperware?)

I had some lovely comments regarding my last blog by the way. Thank you. It was hard to write but it needed writing.

Here have a recipe for the cake just in case it turns out to be amazing.

My mama

It occurred to me earlier that I should probably blog a little about my back story. This blog is meant to follow my progress in a year leading up to a half marathon for breast cancer care. I'm doing it in my beautiful mamas memory so it seems fitting to document what happened with her. Why I'm doing all this. I think the recent loss of my friend and colleague has brought this to the forefront of my mind. I'm still struggling to believe she is gone. But it's only been a week. And I still struggle to believe my mama is gone.

Its easily the biggest life event that has affected me to date (in a negative way), losing my mam. It was the hardest thing I've ever had to go through. Divorce, my own health issues, mental abuse, attempted rape - none of that comes close.

My mam was my absolute rock. My best friend. We obviously had the usual clashes in my teenage years, but to be honest I was an utter cow so I don't blame her. But she's always been the one by my side throughout all the other shit in my life. She's bailed me out. Helped me pick up the pieces and put them back together to form some kind of normality so many times I couldn't possibly begin to tell you them all.

We have also had some of THE best laughs ever. Days out every weekend nearly, and many a night spent staying over at hers with a good film, a bottle of wine and a Chinese takeaway (my dad works nights). Proper best friend material.

I first started to notice something wasn't right just over 5 years ago. She had had a cough that had seemed to go on for weeks. I kept asking her had she been to the doctors yet? And her usual answer was 'no I feel a bit better this week though so it's obviously going away now' . But it didn't. Our days out on a Saturday started to seem like they were getting a bit much for her. She wouldn't have it though. Was adamant she was fine. We were going away for a few days in the summer. We had hired a huge lovely house near the Lake District and I was going to abseil to raise money for cancer research uk. I have done some form of fundraising every year for as long as I can remember. My mam was always my biggest supporter. The loudest cheerer. While we were away, she barely left the house. This was unusual. We often spent time in the lakes and we always had a very active few days and the house or cottage we stayed in was usually just a base to sleep and have the odd meal. Not this time. She hadn't the energy. She refused to come to watch my abseil. I was so devastated. It wasn't the same. I begged her to promise she would go see the doctor when we got back. She was tired, cold all the time (coat on, heating on and hot water bottle in July). She said she would.

We got back and of course she didn't go, she quite firmly told me to get off her back or we were going to fall out. We were at a loss as to what to do anymore. She was obviously quite poorly. Was a very odd colour and getting less and less mobile by the day. We rang the doctors and asked them for help. They said they could do nothing, as she had a choice whether she wanted to be seen by a doctor or not and if she said no, they couldn't force her. We felt so helpless.

This went on for a few more weeks. I had so many tearful conversations with her, begging her to please reconsider and go and see them, see what was wrong so they could get her better. She would either refuse, or promise she would go but then not see it through.

In the end after about 6 weeks of this ongoing battle we made a breakthrough. It was horrible, because we had to all threaten to stop speaking to her, my dad said he would leave, and my brother said he would stop letting her see the kids, unless she went to the doctor. None of us would have actually done it. But it worked and she went. Immediately they rushed her to hospital. Said she had a stomach ulcer that was bleeding so badly if she had left it another day or two she would have died. She had 7 blood transfusions in total. And she started to look more like her old self. She was in hospital a total of 3 weeks getting her strength up. Then came the bombshell. She had cancer. But was too weak for treatment because of this internal bleed.

She told me it was skin cancer on her chest but also that she had tumours in the Breast. She had had this mole that had bled for years, and it had got worse and worse over the last 3 years and was basically a huge gaping wound now. She had hidden this from all of us, buying dressings and cleaning and dressing it herself. Because she was afraid to go and see her doctor in case it was bad news.

Well now it was bad news. She had an operation a few weeks later and a skin graft and she was feeling very positive. Great. Thankfully it's been caught in time we all said. But she struggled to recover and at a follow up appointment a few weeks later the skin cancer was back. Another operation was needed and some radiotherapy. Which would take place over christmas and new year.

Except christmas came and she was not well enough for the treatment. She was in too much pain. Even the journey to the hospital each day was agony for her and by the time she got there they were unable to get her into the right position because of the pain.

Just after new year, she was admitted into hospital again as she was in pain so badly and had a terrible fever. An infection they suspected. That was the start of the ultimate nightmare. After being in hospital a week or so, being treated for pneumonia, we were taken to one side and told, the reason she is in so much pain is that she has cancer in pretty much every organ and bone in her body. And we cannot do anything about it. If she had had the mole sorted when she first noticed it a few years back it would be a very different story but it's had years to spread and it's done just that.

We brought her home a couple of days later. Nobody told her she was dying but she knew. The last conversation we had, she told me she was frightened of what laid ahead. I told her not to be, it was going to be alright. She thanked me for being the best daughter in the world. And that was the last time we spoke. She was gone the next day, a week after coming home.

I think I am still in shock now even though it was nearly 4 years ago. This isn't what was supposed to happen. She is still meant to be here. I miss her every single day.

If anyone is reading this, I guess what I want you to take from this is please don't ignore it if you think something is wrong. Even if you are scared of what may be, don't throw away a chance through fear.

The work of the breast cancer care charity I'm doing this for is so vital and important in supporting people through their diagnosis and treatment. They do so much, they offer so many different forms of help that I honestly wish my mam had known about them. Maybe she would have got help sooner and been less afraid. I guess we will never know but one thing I am certain of is that if I can help them to help even one person then I'll be over the moon with that.

Happy hen-birthday to me!

Yes, you read that title correctly. No. I'm not getting married. I feel an explanation is in order. Yesterday was my birthday. At the weekend I was away for a girls weekend celebrating. This came about because my friend has a bucket list, and on the list was going to Blackpool, as she had never been. So months ago we decided to go for my birthday weekend and have a good old piss up. It's been booked for ages.

Friday tea time we all rocked up at her house. She had cooked for us so we could eat and then set off. The plan was to get there for 9pm and have a little PJ party (fuelled by alcohol). When I got to her house, she sprung a massive surprise on me. A hen party. Basically I was married once, and when I got married 15 years ago I didn't have a hen do. I wasn't allowed one. Then when I almost remarried, I called it off before the hen do had happened. So I've never had a hen do and she decided a belated one is better than none at all.😂😂😂 Yes really! Well what a weekend we had. I've never drunk so much fizz in one weekend. Its Tuesday and I'm still suffering haha.

But we had a great time. Met loads of people and dragged ourselves to bed at 5.30am on Sunday morning. Urgh. I'm getting too old for this. We booked a booth to go to see drag queen cabaret at funny girls. That was amazing. I'm so glad we did it. Probably the highlight of the weekend for me.

I am slightly scared that my mate got weighed and has put 8lb on over the weekend though. Waaah! I made myself go for a run this morning to attempt to start counteracting it. I pray to god that by Saturday I've done some serious damage limitation. I hope to get two more runs in this week. I had planned to go yesterday but I was so knackered after 3 hours sleep the night before that I just couldn't force myself out of bed. And my fella said on my birthday I should chill out. So I did.

I did 3 miles this morning though and I have walked quite a lot after that going to town for a few bits. I have meals sorted for the week near enough. Slightly scared that tomorrow I'm going to my nannas and she feeds you up. But we shall see. Hopefully she won't have done any baking haha.

Here are a selection of photos from the weekend (sorry)

The wrong kind of losses

It's been a funny old week. I haven't mentioned this in my blog but those of you that know me will have known. My colleague and friend passed away on Monday night. Only 4 days after being told she had liver cancer. I'm in utter shock. She was sat next to me a couple of weeks ago, like she did every day. We had a good friendship. She was well aware that I have my fair share of utter fuckwits in my life. She would often listen to my rants about these people, and she would always tell me I'm too nice and I should just tell them to bugger off. She was the voice of reason. A wonderful kind lady and always smiling. I'll miss her so very much.

The other thing that happened this week that I didn't mention was that I had a job interview. I didn't get the job but the recruitment process itself felt like a days work haha. There was an online test. Then one in person in exam conditions. Then a group task. Then interview. And those that passed the interview go on a list. And from that list 4 people get jobs. I felt like I was applying for the SAS. I was half expecting to be led out to an assault course at any moment. What struck me though was that my confidence was making an appearance. I hate speaking to groups, I always get embarrassed as I know everyone looks at you when you speak and I always feel very conscious that all they will see is fat. They'll be thinking, god look how massive she is, and not be taking any notice of what I say, too distracted by my chins. And then I feel the heat creeping up my neck and into my face. Then I become self conscious of that and then I just get redder. Well, I didn't! I got on with it, I don't think I went red at all and I definitely never thought about my weight. It was a whole new experience. I know I'm still fat. I still have chins. I just wasn't as bothered because I know I'm doing something about it.

Another little revelation that has boosted my confidence this week - telling someone else my weight. I have a little WhatsApp group on my phone with two of my friends that we use to discuss all things weight loss. But we have never actually revealed our weights to each other. I have always been very reluctant to do this anyway to anyone because I find it mortifying. The only people that know are the SW helpers and my GP. Even my partner doesn't know. I have always thought I was a good few stone heavier than my two friends. I look at them both and I think they look fine. They don't look as though they need to lose a lot of weight. Whereas I feel like I do. This week one of the girls hit a milestone weight loss wise, going into a new stone bracket. This led to her saying what she weighed, no longer caring. Then my other friend did the same. So I did too. And you know what? I AM heavier. But by a few pounds. Not a few stones. I felt so much better! Because I felt like I must look like I was twice the size they are. And I obviously can't do! Yes ok they are both a little taller than me so they do carry it better but I clearly don't look as hideous as I imagine. Woohoo!

This weekend is my birthday weekend away. I'm off tonight and I can't wait. Going to my friends for tea (syn free chilli) then setting off. Tonight is prosecco fuelled PJ party with a few drinking games. And of course some not very syn free snacks. See photo (oops)

Tomorrow we are doing madame Tussaud's and a few other bits then we are off to funny girl's on the night, which is a drag queen cabaret sorta thing. Then out on the town. Sunday will be recovering and then coming home.

Ive done most of my packing. Just the booze to go. I'll be raising a glass to my dear friend. She was so looking forward to hearing all about it afterwards so I'll make sure it's a good un, and I hope she's watching over us. God bless lovely lady xxx

Contemplation.

I got the latest issue of women's running yesterday, came through the post. I was reading it this morning and it got me thinking (again) about my own running ability. So many people were talking of training to beat their PBs and get faster. They talk of interval training, running at high pace and then falling back to low pace for a bit and so on. I do none of this. Obviously I did interval training with C25K, but that was run walk run. Not running at different speeds. I only have one speed, and it is not fast. Reading up on how to do these intervals, it was saying run a comfortable pace between fast intervals. I don't have a comfortable pace! My comfortable pace is sitting on my arse! ha-ha. Maybe this just means I am doing the right thing in just increasing my endurance for now and not caring about speed. Speed can come later, when I get maybe halfway to half marathon distance. For now, I suppose going at all is good enough, and if it is slow, then so what? Id be interested to hear thoughts from the few of you that do read this and are running. I also think, I am a LOT heavier than many runners. So perhaps I should not focus on speed until I'm lighter. I know I used to be much faster than I am now, but I was also much lighter than I am now, so that will surely slow me

Today was weigh in, and I cannot believe this, but I won slimmer of the week having lost 4lb! And I also won the raffle. So I left with a massive bag of fruit, plus a wok, some noodles, soy sauce, stir fry veg and some tins of kidney beans and some lentils - crazy! Im really chuffed though. It is lovely to get a little prize here and there, I love it. And the wok is green! Its a small wok, the idea behind it was, if your family are all being fat knackers tonight and having a Chinese takeaway, don't give in, make yourself a healthy version, and the pan is the perfect size for one! I was already making Chinese fakeaway tonight anyway ( I will try and add a picture) but for all of us. So we had extra stir fried veggies which is never a bad thing. It was delicious and to be honest I winged it by adapting other recipes but we enjoyed it.

I am toying with the idea of running tomorrow. Partly because I missed Friday, and partly because I don't get weighed now for 2 weeks and I have my birthday in between. I am so looking forward to my birthday weekend but it will most definitely not be weight loss friendly. Ok, food wise is probably ok. We go on the Friday night, and we have already planned a big pot of syn free chilli to eat before we set off. We also are taking fry up stuff for Saturday and sunday morning (SW friendly) and we are having pizza and home made wedges Saturday night (not really SW friendly on the pizza front but better than takeaway pizza), so we only have Saturday lunchtime to find food while we are out and about and we can do nandos or there are some ok meals on wetherspoons menu. But....its the booze. I took delivery of 12 bottles of Prosecco the other day. TWELVE. Theres only four of us. But the Friday night we are staying in, and just having a PJ party after the drive there. So we will probably go through a good few of them. Saturday drinks are just while we eat and get ready, and then we are off to a drag queen cabaret show, which will be boozy, and then out on the town. So, there is a lot of room for gaining here.

I am thinking, run 4 times this week (tomorrow, Monday, Wednesday and Friday morning) and be 100% on plan. Enjoy the weekend, and then get straight back on it next Monday, including running again, even though is IS my birthday. I need to lose 2 more pounds to get down into the next stone bracket and to hit 1.5 stone lost since I started this group, and I would absolutely love to get it that week, what a fab birthday present. I don't know if it is realistic but I can try and its gotta be better than just sacking it off and being bad for a week like I usually would for my birthday right?

Germs. Bleurgh!

Yesterday was our macmillan coffee morning day at work. I was all set to be good, I had great intentions. I would be good all day and I would do my long run Friday and all would be well. Then Thursday actually happened.

It started with a 4am bed invader, in the form of my small human. I dozed for half an hour on and off with her fidgeting about and in the end gave up and got up with her at 4.30. I was not happy. We got downstairs and I looked at my phone. I had news, and I didn't like that either. I had been waiting to hear about a colleague of mine. I would say we are pretty close, she sits next to me at work and we have a good friendship. She has been poorly for a couple of weeks and in hospital having various tests. Well the C word has now been said. That horrible bastard word. I felt sick. I got all emotional. I had to go into work and tell the rest of my team. People were upset, it was horrible. I just didn't feel right at all, I assumed it was shock perhaps.

Out came the cakes. And oh my....there were SO MANY!!! Well with such a bad start to the day, how could I resist? I hadn't had any breakfast yet. I put my fiver in the box and had a lovely muffin for breakfast, thinking to myself, with a fiver I can have seconds actually. Fuck it! Oh, but no. Life had other plans. I suddenly felt a cold sweat come over me. Before I knew it, that muffin was reappearing. Honestly I hadn't even been able to enjoy the post cake glow for five minutes. How rude is that?! Well that was me off cake the rest of the day, that's for sure. Stupid sugary delicious bastards.

In light of this, plus the realisation I hadn't taken the precooked chilli I had frozen out of the freezer for tea, I decided there was no harm in buying some cakes for my partner. I wouldn't want to eat any now, he would be less pissed off that he had nowt for tea if I handed him cakes to soften the blow, and I would be donating more money to a great cause (even more poignant in light of the mornings news). Win win. Except no. Because this day was basically becoming a farce, this didn't work out either. Because I couldn't find my bank cards. I have a separate cash purse and card holder. And my card holder was nowhere to be found. Shitting hell! By this point I felt like I was going to pass out or cry, or both. So, I left work and went home. It wasn't even 10am and the day had beaten me. By the time I got home I was shivering and sweating. My whole body was aching. Like, even my eyelashes.

I got in the house and thankfully found my cardholder (again my delightful little cherub had been rifling through my things no doubt. Probably looking for my phone to watch those bloody shitty youtube videos of people opening kinder eggs that she seems to love!). So one thing worked out. I took myself off to bed where I think I went through every range of temperature known to man. I took a lot of codeine and paracetamol and I slept. Needless to say, I did not get up and go for a run today. Not a chance. Im a little better but not in any fit state to exert myself.

I dont work fridays, and little legs doesnt go to nursery on fridays. So, I have survived the day by allowing her to paint my nails and colour my feet in. Just for some peace. I will try and attach pictures of this handywork, as its impressive. (pahahahahaha).

Tomorrow is weigh in and I dont know what to expect. Im ill. Ive not eaten properly last two days. Ive missed a run. And I feel like crap. Well. We shall see eh?

What is a proper runner?

What IS a proper runner?

This is the question I have been asking myself today. After my 5 miler on Friday, and this morning I got another 4 under my belt before work, I had said that I feel like a proper runner now. I am running 3 days a week, I am increasing my distances gradually. I subscribe to womens running. I have technical running clothing and shoes. I have post run recovery protein, and I have electrolyte tablets to put in my water for longer runs (Friday was the first time I used them, and I think they definitely helped – I think I will use them on my Friday runs from now on, when I am focusing on increasing distance and endurance). I have signed up to a half marathon, so I have a decent goal to aim for. I feel like a proper runner.

But, another lady I know who started running earlier this year (who was the inspiration for me getting back out there in fact) said she has only just started to class herself as a proper runner since yesterday, when she completed her second half marathon. Hmmm.  Interesting. So, what IS a proper runner then? I don’t go to a running club, because I like to run on my own. I enjoy the solitude and that time alone, where I don’t have to think about anyone else for a bit, just my own thoughts, my music and my breathing. I am not following a specific training plan at the moment either, having completed couch to 5k I am working up to 10k on my own, which I am confident I will reach in the not too distant future.  I haven’t signed up for any other events either. I know a lot of runners sign up for multiple events. I haven’t done that. I have one other in mind, but a lot of the events near me are charity events, and as I have taken a charity place in GNR, which has a minimum fundraising target of £300, I don’t want to push my luck with people asking them to sponsor me for other things or risk not hitting my target because people HAVE sponsored me for other things.

I have thought about looking at events where they maybe aren’t just for a specific charity and  I could tag them onto my existing Just giving page, and run more than one race for the same charity, not sure if thats an option. Anyway, I digress – do you have to be competing in loads of events to be a proper runner? I’m not sure you do ya know. I think if you do it week in week out, and you progress and then maintain a level of fitness, then you are a runner. I don’t think it is defined by what events you do. People may run simply for fitness and never enter a race in their lives. They are still runners. Well, in my eyes they are anyway.  So, I hereby declare myself a proper runner. So there! Haha.

Another weekend, another weigh in.

Yesterday was my longer run day. Last time I went out on a Friday was 2 weeks ago and I managed 4.15 miles. I mapped myself a 5 mile route and decided to try and do as much as I can of it and see where we get. Well, I only bloody did it! 5.25 miles in total, in about an hour and ten minutes, which is slower than most but I don't care. I ran over 5 miles! Me! I'm starting to feel optimistic, I have nearly a year and I reckon I have a good shot at this half marathon. My original aim when I started running in June was to be Up to 5 miles by Christmas, so now I'm upping that to 6. If I can get to that from nothing in 6 months, I can up that to 13 in 9, surely. 

Today was weigh in. I have been good all week bar Sunday when we had Sunday lunch out. Which was mainly ok but I had a Yorkshire pudding and a bit of cauliflower cheese and 2 little pigs in blankets which were not so good but other than that I've been on plan. I upped my running this week on all 3 days compared to usual. And I maintained. I am a little disappointed but I know that it happens. I also did my measurements and I have lost loads of centimetres even if the scales haven't budged this week. In September so far I have lost 9cm around my belly alone! I think 4 off my hips, 2 from my bust and 2 from my waist. So, I'm happy with that.

I've had a tough day, had to go to a kids party (avoided nibbling on any party food) and my OH is away this weekend so I'm on my own and the small one is going through a challenging stage too, but the day is almost done and tomorrow is a new day. I have meals planned all week. No social engagements. I can do this. It's my birthday in just over 2 weeks so next week will be my last weigh in as a 37 year old, as the weekend after I'm away. For my birthday I'm going on a girly weekend and I can't wait. Yes it's not going to be ideal diet wise but I'm trying to be as good as possible food wise, and just enjoy a big old drink haha. Going to try and get lots of running in before and after. My birthday is a Monday and we come back Sunday night. I usually run on a Monday so I may have a birthday run. We shall see. I want to, I guess it depends how alive I feel after a heavy weekend. 

I should probably start adding some other stuff in on non running days. I'll look at options. Any suggestions welcome! Thanks for reading xxx

Bit of extra motivation

Hello and happy Wednesday! This morning I did 3.5 miles before work and I was really chuffed with myself. I have been doing 2.5 on a Monday and Wednesday but upped it to 3. I was awake earlier this morning so I decided to use the extra time to get some extra distance in. I hope I can do a decent run Friday now too!

Tonight I am off to the cinema to see the new Bridget Jones movie. I’m really looking forward to it. I love going to the cinema, and go regularly if I can. This will be the first Bridget movie I have seen without having read the book first! I don’t think there is a book of this one, as the book that recently came out (I say recently, it was nearly 3 years ago haha) was not the same storyline as that of the movie. So no idea what to expect.

Last night I decided to have a look through the two suitcases of clothes my dad dropped off for me the other week. These are all my clothes, not just some random lost luggage he picked up cheap, don’t worry. Basically, just over 4 years ago I had called off my wedding. Things had gone sour and I knew we couldn’t get married as it wouldn’t be right. So, that was that. In the 2 years running up to the wedding, I had been secretly squirreling away some cash, into one of those terramundi pots that you have to smash open to get the money out of. I used to put every £2 coin into it, plus the odd fiver if I ever felt flush. It was a honeymoon fund, meant to be a surprise for my husband to be. Well, once the wedding was off, I decided bugger this, Im opening that. I had over £800 in it. So, I booked myself a weekend away in Belfast with some lovely (crazy) ladies (you know who you are) and with the rest, I had several shopping sprees.

This led to an accumulation of new clothes, mainly dresses. My wardrobe had never been so full! During this time, I met my now partner. I was in the process of giving up my flat, as I couldn’t afford it on my own any more, and I had arranged to rent my friends spare room for a bit, and then as my mam had died, I decided to move back in with my dad. I packed up these two suitcases of clothes and sent them over. Then I started packing other things and getting prepared to move. Just before D day, I found out I was pregnant. This led to a swift change of plan, and I was suddenly moving in with my boyfriend (this was always on the cards, we had just decided to wait a bit, but that went out the window).

I forgot about those suitcases of clothes. After all my mind was taken up with other things, and maternity clothes were purchased anyway. My daughter is now 2 and a half and my dad must have finally got sick of harbouring my stuff and brought them to my house for me. Last night I went through them briefly and OH MY! I had forgotten most of this stuff existed. Lots of the items still have tags on, and the rest have only been worn once or twice. So, here is my fresh bout of motivation! I have a skinny (well slimmer, maybe not skinny) wardrobe ready and waiting for me! Most of it is still current, nothing seems to be massively ‘out of fashion’ so its all good! I cant wait to fit back into them! 

New week, new plans

Its Monday once again and here begins a new week. I don’t really do exercise on weekends. I know this is likely to change as I need to increase my running time to train, as I will need to have more time at least once a week but for now, I am happy with Monday Wednesday and Friday as run days. It’s what I have always been used to. I may increase to 4 days at some point but not yet.

I am well prepped food wise this week, I have tonight’s tea in the slow cooker (giving this diet coke chicken a go for the first time ever), I have premade lasagnes and shepherds pies for Tuesday and Wednesday and I am having tea out Thursday (nandos, so I know what i can have from there to stay on track, it’s all good). At the weekend it’s just me and my baba for 3 days. My other half is going away on a golfing break from Friday morning to Sunday evening. We have a couple of things planned (kids party and we are going to the theatre to see stick man live) and I will probably do online food shopping this week too as won’t have a car with him being away. I’m kinda excited to try some different things. How sad am I? Haha.

I did a three mile run this  morning which I am pleased with, the back held up ok and fingers crossed it stays that way (caring for a toddler for 3 days on your own with a bad back is not fun, I can promise you that). I’ll do another one Wednesday and then hopefully Friday I will do a longer run. I’m at the cinema Wednesday night and out for tea thurs as I mentioned above, so I think the longer run will be necessary. I’m going to see the new Bridget Jones movie, but I am going to try and be good and maybe take grapes and a small bag of skinny popcorn rather than splurge on the movie stuff which is really bad.

I have some time off coming up soon and I cant wait. I always take a few days off for my birthday and this year is no exception. I start my week off with a hospital appointment for the little lady, which I hope goes alright. Then I am going away for 2 nights with the girls to Blackpool, to celebrate. We are booking a booth at the Funny Girls venue to watch their Halloween spectacular, then a few drinks somewhere and I think we will also squeeze in madame Tussauds. I haven’t been to blackpool for a while – I know that its reputation has gone downhill but I think for a daft weekend with the girls it will be perfect. I went for a day there last year and it was still fine. I think people maybe exaggerate things, it sounded like scenes from Ibiza uncovered when I was reading about it recently and it was nothing like that! I get back from there on the Sunday evening and Monday is my birthday. Nothing planned for the actual day yet. Will see if the mister pulls anything out of the bag. Monday is a run day though. So I may have a birthday run. Or I may give myself the day off. I shall see.

Weekend musings

I've spent the weekend resting my back and stinking of deep heat in an attempt to heal. And I'm very pleased to report that it feels a heck of a lot better. I'm contemplating a run tomorrow morning. I've set my alarm anyway and will see how I feel. I've new stuff to try out so I'm eager to get out there.

I went to my slimming world group and I've lost 2lb this week which I'm pleased with considering I'm a run short of my usual routine. I seem to be averaging 2lb a week which is good enough for me. Carry on at that rate and I can shift 2 more stones by Christmas.

Today we took the small human to massive toy shop and said she could choose whatever she wanted as long as it added up to £50. She did well, there was a sale on and for a 2 and a half year old she was pretty savvy with her choices and got loads!

We had Sunday lunch out as a treat and it was delicious. I'm still quite full so I'm just going to have some skinny popcorn while watching TV in a bit rather than have a proper tea as I'd just be eating for the sake of it.

I've been thinking about what it is that's different this time than all the other attempts at losing weight since I had the baba. Ive never stuck to it this long before. I think its a combo of attending a group again and running. I kid myself when I weigh at home. I don't weigh when I've had a bad week and our floors are uneven so the scales aren't accurate. And exercise wise, nothing else motivated me to carry on every week like running when I did it last time and the same is true now. I join gyms and I go but I don't really like them, and I seem to go sporadically rather than on set days like I do now.

I think my heads in the right place finally and I'm excited!

Bloody stupid body.

I was all geared up to do a long run today, and then my back decided it has other ideas and went on me last night. So no run this morning. Especially as a thunderstorm was raging when my alarm went off. I'm disappointed. I can't lie. But there's always tomorrow. And if not, next week is a new week.

I received my new water bottle today with some electrolyte tablets. I'm gonna start using them as I remember they minimised cramps and aches when I was running before so every little helps. No calories either so no syns. I think I need to incorporate some core strengthening into my rest days (well Tuesday and Thursday, not weekends) and that will help too.

I have heat patches and wine to see me through the weekend, I'll be fine!

Fundraising has officially begun!

Holy crap! I have my first sponsor. Shit got real. Woooo!

I set up my just giving page last night just because I like to be organised. I didn’t really think about fundraising just yet as most people have probably just paid up for the people they sponsored in this years GNR but I shared it anyway just so it was out there. And a lovely lady has sponsored me £5. So, thats it now, its really real. Wow. I spent last night looking at winter running kit, as I don’t want to slack off during the cold weather (ok maybe snow will stop me but cold, wind and rain will not). I ordered some stuff online ready.

I have had a funny week diet wise this week. I have been pretty good, but we were at a christening on Sunday and buffet food was involved. I didn’t go mad but there wasn’t much that was slimming world friendly. In fact the only thing that was SW friendly were chicken drumsticks, and I am such a weirdo I cant eat meat off the bone like that, so I avoided them. My group leader says that over the course of a week, you have approximately 21 meals. If 1 meal out of that 21 isnt on track, but the other 20 are then there is no reason why you should not still have a good result. I know this makes sense but I also know my body is a right little sod about these things and I am not usually able to get away with even one off track meal. I guess we will see on Saturday. I have been for two runs this week, one slightly longer than usual and tomorrow will be my longer run (last week was 4.15 miles, Im going to aim for 4.25 this week).  My aim has been to get to 5 miles before Christmas and I think I am well on track to do that. Then I have 9 months to up that by another 8 – waaah!

Had a chat with a friend this morning on the way to work about online dating. Anyone who remembers my old blog will recall the horror stories I have from those days. Its not all bad though, I have a wonderful partner and daughter now thanks to online dating. But, my word it is hard work. I think I have decided that should I find myself single again, I shall stay that way.

Thanks for reading xx

And so it starts

Well this morning saw my first ‘training run’. Its not really a training run, as I was already running 3 times a week and I haven’t devised a training program yet, but I did get up 15 minutes earlier than usual to increase my distance to 3 miles before work, rather than 2.5.

I saw a guy walking his dog while was out running and he looked at me with such contempt. I see him now and then and he always does this. I know Im fat and I don’t look like a runner. That doesn’t mean I am not allowed to do it. There is no need to look with such distaste. Perhaps he just has resting bitch face though, and its not me at all, he just always looks like a smacked arse.

I feel I should elaborate on my background a bit more while its early days. I have never really been a sporty person. I hated PE at school, especially cross country running. I mainly walked the two miles they made us do.  I have always been overweight to varying degrees. This time ten years ago, I had just come home from hospital having had surgery on my spine following a car crash that eventually led to me being housebound for the best part of a year and a half. I could barely walk. I couldn’t straighten up. I couldn’t sleep. I couldn’t stand and cook a meal. I had to crawl up my stairs. The surgery gave my my life back. And I decided I wasn’t going to waste it any more.

It took me a long time, I started off using wii fit. I don’t know if anyone has ever used that, but it isn’t really vigorous exercise. Its quite gentle and was just what I needed to ease myself in. I then branched out to some more workout DVD style wii games, Biggest loser workout game was one of them, and there was a personal trainer sort of thing. That was a decent workout. That got me used to some more exercises. Then I joined the gym and I used to go 3 times a week. Still nothing ridiculous. 15 min on a treadmill (walking) 15 on a bike and 15 on a rower.  Over the 12 months this took place, I lost almost 7 stone.  I followed weightwatchers and did this exercise and it worked for me. Then I signed up for a race for life. I had walked one the year before and I decided I would like to try and run it. So, I embarked upon the couch to 5k plan. I didn’t lose a lot of weight but inches melted away. I did my race for life and then I carried on with it. I was running 4 times a week between 3 and 6 miles a time. I had never felt so fit! And then my mam became ill. Everything went by the wayside while she was dying. I don’t regret that, I would do the same again. She was all that mattered to me for those weeks. I did intend to get back to it. I really did. But grief enveloped me. It still does to be honest. But its more manageable now.  Only a few months after my mam died, I found out I was pregnant. So that cemented the end of my fitness regime for a while, due to severe morning sickness and then pelvic displacement.

So now I find myself kinda back where I started although not quite. I started couch to 5k again on 3rd June. And here we are. I would welcome any tips if anyone reads this. All advice appreciated as I have no idea what I am doing x

Welcome!

Hello. Welcome to my life for the next 12 months. I am 38 in a couple of weeks time, and I have just signed up for my first ever half marathon. Ive done a couple of 5km runs before for charity and an abseil but nothing like this. So, why? Well, I don’t really know the answer to that.

I started running a few years ago and had got from nothing to 6 miles by the time I stopped due to pregnancy. I had lost quite a lot of chubb from it as well, which I have basically put back on now. My daughter is 2 and a half, and I have been fannying about losing the same few pounds ever since, and enough is enough! I remembered what worked for me before, and it was running combined with watching what I eat. I used to do weight watchers but they have changed the plan and I just cant get away with it so I decided to go to the dark side. Yes thats right, I went to (looks around to make sure nobody overhears this horrific confession....) slimming world. So, in June I started couch to 5k again, from day 1. Runs of 1 minute duration. MY GOD it hurt. I couldn’t believe how unfit I had become. I could have cried. But I didn’t. I got up again 2 days later and did it again. And so on....and then on the 1st August I joined slimming world. And carried on with the last couple of weeks of C25K and graduated, and have continued running 3 times a week. I do two 2.5-3 mile runs a week on a Monday and Wednesday morning, and on a Friday when I don’t have to go to work I have been increasing a little each week. Last Friday I did 4.15 miles. I have lost 13lb in six weeks. I like these results.

A lot of people I know ran the great north run on Sunday. I loved seeing their updates on facebook, and I was a bit jealous, I wished I could run that far. Then I thought, who says I cant? Ive gone from nothing to over 4 miles in 3 months.  I have another year till the next great north run. I could give it a shot. And think how much fitter I will get in the process? My arse may finally no longer require its own postcode. It could end up just a normal sized arse. Imagine!

Then comes the charity bit. I fundraise every year, and have done for the last ten years or so. I choose a different cause every year and I do vary the method. But I lost my mam 3 and a half years ago to skin cancer and breast cancer, so cancer charities are very close to my heart. I saw Breast cancer care were offering early bird places this morning and it felt like it was meant to be. So, I did it. And now Im crapping myself but excited too. This would be my greatest achievement with the exception of my beautiful daughter. I know my mam will be proud up there.

I have decided to write this blog for the journey over the next 12 months to keep a record of how training is going and how Im getting on. But I cant lie, I deviate and go off topic CONSTANTLY in real life so that is totally going to happen here. Sorry (not sorry).

Thanks for reading!
H xx